Topic: Should a Woman Propose to a Man?

Guy take am easily with them oooo

Havig read through the posts, I have a Contribution/Suggestion to make
The question is whether it is right 4 a woman to proposed to a man?
Well, from bible's viewpoint there is nothing wrong in that. Afterall in the bible, Esther prayed to God before approaching Boax whom he proposed to and God blessed her effort. Later Boax married her and they lived happily. But i have this correction/suggestion to make.
Words of Caution to Guys:
When a girl that truly loves u approach or proposed to u, please dont see her as a wayward person rather she is revealing a special quality (Openess and honesty) which is an important ingredient in marriage. Please do not take it 4 granted and oppress her because u feel she cant do without u. If actually u do not love to have her as ur life partner, tactfully and mildly explain to her assigning her dignity and respect.
Words of Caution to Ladies:
Before approaching any guy make sure the guy truly loves u but he is naturally shy to make the move. I Know is very difficult to take such a bold step considering our cultural background to proposed to man but is better to do it instead of wasting ur time with him without commitment. If the guy genuinely loves u he will go ahead with the proposal, he will take charge, if he doesnt do this know that he is not ur Mr. Right. It will save u of ur time (Ladies u know time is not on ur side), headache of heartbreak and so on. Proposing to a man doesnt change whom u are provided u are not doing it 4 selfish reasons.
Corrections to make:
I can still remember some posts were some said as a lady they cant do it. Well is ur opinion, i respect that but i want to let u know that is better to open up than bottling urself with pains and emotions detrimental to health. It doesnt take away anything from u. U are still whom u are. Even if the guy do not appreciate u, someone else better than him will.
Thank u all 4 ur contributions. I enjoyed it

Originally Posted by florafab

@jeanie & Coolguy,

If u guys want to do familarization chat, why don't you send each other personal messages or better still get your e-mail address and chat up.

Seconded!

@dagunro, very funny

@jeanie

They are just joking please don't be offended.

@ Coolguy,

I dont think Jeanie was offended, i think she fully understood me/us (i.e. if u want to include Dagunro, or take me as d main culprit).

I was only pulling your legs.

Don't be too sentimenal.

@ALL

I really appreciates every body's opinion but to be frank, it's nt wrong for a woman to propose to a man owing to the kind of man involved.

In all, go for ur heart.

I STIILL STAND TO SAY IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN THAT IN OUR CONTEXT AS AFRICANS, NO LADY SHOULD DO SUCH NO MATTER THE KIND OF MAN INVOLVED, LOOK, THERE IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE A TIME WHEN THE GUY WILL DEFINETELY MAKE REFERENCE TO IT IN THE FUTURE AND START SAYING AFTERALL U WERE THE ONE THAT BEGGED ME TO MARRY U, THAT IS THE WAY HE WILL DEFINETELY SEE IT. ANYWAY, ME JEANIE CAN'T AND WON'T DO IT NO MATTER HOW MUCH I LOVE THE GUY AND HE IS NOT PROPOSING, I WILL ONLY PRAY AND IF HE IS MINE, HE WILL DEFINETELY PROPOSE.ONE LUV HOUSE.

Originally Posted by jeanie

I STIILL STAND TO SAY IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN THAT IN OUR CONTEXT AS AFRICANS, NO LADY SHOULD DO SUCH NO MATTER THE KIND OF MAN INVOLVED, LOOK, THERE IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE A TIME WHEN THE GUY WILL DEFINETELY MAKE REFERENCE TO IT IN THE FUTURE AND START SAYING AFTERALL U WERE THE ONE THAT BEGGED ME TO MARRY U, THAT IS THE WAY HE WILL DEFINETELY SEE IT. ANYWAY, ME JEANIE CAN'T AND WON'T DO IT NO MATTER HOW MUCH I LOVE THE GUY AND HE IS NOT PROPOSING, I WILL ONLY PRAY AND IF HE IS MINE, HE WILL DEFINETELY PROPOSE.ONE LUV HOUSE.

This is strictly your opinion I pray it works for you.

ofcourse it will coolguy

Jeanie,
Let me tell u, marriage is not bed of roses. Once u are married, once in a time there will always be a friction no matter how well-matched the couple may be. This is because they came from different background and they have different childhood experience. so if u are telling me that the guy whom a lady proposed to will make reference to it in future as an excuse not to make the move, u are getting it all wrong. Well that ur opinion and i will always respect it but encouraging others to avoid making the move is not rational. The man that may eventually proposed to a lady may even be worse than the man whom a lady proposed to. All depend on how the couple resolve problem when it arises and not whether a man proposed to a lady or a lady proposed to a man.