HOUSE,I NEED ADVICE BEFORE I DO SOMETHING I MAY LATER REGRET

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U GUYS HAVE BEEN REALLY GOOD,I ENJOY THE MANNER AND WAY AT WHICH U RELATE TO EVERY MEMBER AS A FAMILY AND I KNOW THAT SOME OF US FACING SOME HARD TIMES WILL SOON HAVE COURSE TO REJOICE.PRESENTLY SOMETHING HAS BEEN BOTHERING ME AND I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT IT SO MUCH BEFORE I DECIDED TO GIVE IT OUT FOR ADVICE,LIKE THE SAYING, A PROBLEM SHARED IS A PROBLEM SOLVED.PRESENTLY, AM DATING A GUY THAT I GENUINELY LOVE AND CHERISH SO MUCH, BUT THE PROBLEM IS THAT FOR SOME YEARS NOW, HE HAS BEEN IDLE IN THE SENSE THAT HE LOST HIS BUSINESS TO SOME FRAUDSTERS AND LOST EVERYTHING AND SINCE THEN HE HAS BEEN TRYING TO RISE UP AGAIN,WHEN I MET HIM EARLIER THIS YEAR, I DECIDED TO OVERLOOK ALL THOSE COS AM ONE OF THOSE GIRLS WHO BELIEVES THAT AS FAR AS A GUY IS HARDWORKING, UP AND DOING, HE WILL DEFINETELY MAKE IT.U SEE, HE IS VERY HARDWORKING, HE HAS SUBMITTED CVS SEVERAL PLACES, MET WITH SOME BUSINESS TYCOONS TO DISCUSS BUSIN ESS, WE HAVE PRAYED,BUT TO ME IT SEEMS ALL OUR EFFORTS IS NOT BRINGING FORTH ANY RESULTS,WE WERE PLANNING TO GET MARRIED BY NOVEMBER AND BEFORE NOW, I THOUGHT THAT SOMETHING MIGHT HAVE HAPPENED AS IN JOB LEVEL BUT TILL NOW NOTHING,AM NOT TRYING TO LOSE HOPE BUT AS HUMAN THAT WE ARE I FEEL FRUSTRATED ATIMES THAT I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.PLS I PLEAD THAT IF THERE IS ANYONE THAT CAN ADVISE PLS U CAN SEND THE REPLIES TO THIS MAIL ID [email protected]ks and a God bless u all.

young lady ,
please continue with the guy . since you said the guy is hardworking and honest .
never can tell what can happen tommorrow .

i was once jobless but today i thank God with my Job .

please continue to endoure and pray fevently .
all will be well soon .
thank you

my dear,do not do anything silly,cos that guy is going to get a job soon,and if u let him go,u might let him slip off your hand to the next available girl,u have someone you can call your own at least,so many girls out there are looking for such opportunity,u never know,the next guy u would fall into his hands might be a devil in human form that might not really appreciate u,dont make that mistake,a bird at hand is worth more than 10 brids in the bush.Mind you,most guys do know when their girl starts sleeping with someone else,ladyvee warns

Jeanie,

What has come over you in this relationship that led to all this write-up of yours? You did not mention about your own contribution to the guy's life.
What are you doing too for a living? Do you want to put all responsibilities on the guy for you to be asking the house for an advice?

Better, start thinking of how to impact positively in his life & STOP throwing up issues like this on this site.

Lastly, to talk of it, u, guys are planning MARRIAGE with whose money? We ARE WISE men here; And idle-minded girls like you need to be carefully WATCHED b4 hooking wit ur likes.

You are only looking for a cool CASH-LOADED GUYS & soft landing; and not an advice.

Be guided henceforth.

Hello Mr Showboy,

thanks for the reply all the same, i want to say here that u don't jump into conclusions about someone without really knowing who that person is,i have been with u guys for some time and i did what i did becos i know i can get good advisers from the house not killjoys like u. anyway, for your in formation, i am a working class lady and i am not interested in any man's money and have never done that,i only wanted advice on my situation period.

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Originally Posted by showboy

Jeanie,

What has come over you in this relationship that led to all this write-up of yours? You did not mention about your own contribution to the guy's life.
What are you doing too for a living? Do you want to put all responsibilities on the guy for you to be asking the house for an advice?

Better, start thinking of how to impact positively in his life & STOP throwing up issues like this on this site.

Lastly, to talk of it, u, guys are planning MARRIAGE with whose money? We ARE WISE men here; And idle-minded girls like you need to be carefully WATCHED b4 hooking wit ur likes.

You are only looking for a cool CASH-LOADED GUYS & soft landing; and not an advice.

Be guided henceforth.

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Thats d BOMB!

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Originally Posted by jeanie

Hello Mr Showboy,

thanks for the reply all the same, i want to say here that u don't jump into conclusions about someone without really knowing who that person is,i have been with u guys for some time and i did what i did becos i know i can get good advisers from the house not killjoys like u. anyway, for your in formation, i am a working class lady and i am not interested in any man's money and have never done that,i only wanted advice on my situation period.

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Elaborate on ur post next time! Working class girl!

Oneluv!

Jeanie,

I'm not here to kill your joy or joykill you as reported by you. I'm only trying to make you see sense in you relationship with that guy by concentrating more on personal development, since you are a working class.

Remember that this site is meant primarily for JOB Search/connects & personal development & NOT to discuss issues like this one you brought to us.

Think about this.

Cheers.

My sister if you truelly LOVE the man just go ahead and marry him. Don't loose out at the threshold of your breakthrough. I have a friend that got married to a working class lady without him reall having a permanent job. But after about two years of married he got a job with Shell Oil. I can tell you that your man has future. You need to have forsight, don't leave in the present. Your future is bright together.

I may be wrong in my judgement of the issue but that is my opinion anyway.
Cheers.

HELLO JEANIE,I COMMEND YOUR COURAGE AND BOLDNESS TO LET US INTO YOUR PRIVATE WAHALA,AFTERALL WHAT ARE FRIENDS FOR?
SINCERLY SPEAKING,I BELIEVE ITS HIGHTIME YOU ASKED YOURSELVE IF YOU ARE TRULLY IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY OR NOT!.
IF YOU LUV HIM TO THE LEVEL OF MARRIAGE,THEN THEIR IS NEED FOR YOU TO ALSO HAVE CONFIDENCE IN HIM AND IN GOD. AFTERALL HE HAS NOT ALWAYS BEEN JOBLESS,AT LEAST REMEMBER WHEN THE GOING WAS GOOD.
YOU SAID THAT HE IS HARDWORKING AND UP AND DOING MOROVER THIS PERIOD IS A REAL TEST OF HOW DEEP YOUR LOVE FOR HIM IS. SO WHY DONT YOU STAY BY HIM AND GIVE HIM THE NECCESSARY SUPPORT THAT HE SO MUCH NEED AT THIS POINT IN TIME. LEAVING HIM NOW WILL ONLY COMPLICATE HIS SITUATION AND I BELIEVE THIS IS NOT WHAT YOU WISH FOR HIM. THANK GOD THAT YOU ARE A WORKING CLASS SO TRY AND WHEATHER THIS STORM WITH HIM AND WHO KNOWS TOMORROW, ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN IN CHARLY BOY SHOW! CHEAR UP SISTER FOLLOW YOUR HERAT AND INVITE ME TO YOUR WEDDING.
AS FOR THE COMMENT BY SHOWBOY I THINK BROTHER YOU WERE A LITTLE BIT HARSH ON JEANIE. THIS IS ONE BIG AND HAPPY FAMILY THEREFORE WE HAVE THE DUTY OF LENDING LISTENING EAR TO OUR BRETHREN EVEN WHEN THEY MISPLACE THE ROUND PEG IN THE SQUARE HOLE . I LOVE YOU ALL. PEACE...................

i really appreciate ur being open and sincere about how u feel. it's pretty difficult to stick around when the going is getting unnecessary rough and tough, but whatever alternative u might one 2 take try 2 really review d long & short term consequences.

i do not believe that ur prayers are not being heard, in contrary God has already done more than u asked for. just ask 4 his guidiance and u'll definitely get it... it's a reality thats goes beyond empirical facts.

stay blessed.

I WANT TO ADVISE THAT OUR GOD IS ABLE TO DO ALL THING, WHATEVER SITUATION U FIND YOURSELF TODAY BELIVE THAT OUR GOD CAN SEE YOU THROUGH, KEEP PRAYING BECAUSE I STRONGLY BELIEVE THAT THE END WILL JUSTIFY THE MEANS.

U WILL HAVE EVERY REASON TO REJOICE AT LAST, DONT BACK OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP.

NEVER BE SAD OR DISPONDIN, IF THOUGH HAVE FAITH TO BELIEVE

GRACE FOR THE DUTY BEFORE THEE, ASK OF YOUR GOD AND RECIEVE

NAVER GIVE UP

NEVER GIVE UP

NEVER GIVE UP TO THE SORROW, JESUS WILL BID THEM DEPART

TRUST IN THE LORD, TRUST IN THE LORD

AND TAKE HEART.

HE WILL PUT A NEW SONG IN YOUR MOUTH SHORTLY.

jeanie

I like d way u open up, this room is for discussion though mainly for jobs but i don't think when one is in need he/she will not open it up irrespective of the matter. pls show boy we are our brother's keeper.
to you jieanie, 4rm what u said i can c u r in luv with him, if not u will not boder to seek for advice. pls follow ur heart. at least he once was doing something and had certificate, the down fall of a man is never the end of his life.
do not leave him, since he too loves you. he might be in disguise to know if you truely love him, since u ppl are planning 4 wedding with whose money and how do u ppl also plan to life after the wedding.
thank God u are doing something so support him it shall be well with una.
ur prayer's, all i know is that God hears and will do it in his own time don't loose hope have faith in God it must surely come to pass.

Let me say i praise the house for rallying round this young lady at a time she needs it the most and rendering advises where applicable, i think a lot of things that need to be said has already been said so to my dear Jeanie, all i can say is a word they say is enough for the wise, with the little u've read here i think u have enough tools to make a decision as to what you want and how to go about it. My real problem here is our darling Showboy, it seems u're getting the whole essence of these forum wrongly, if u were but to take a closer look, u'll find out that there are different section on this site dealing with different situations and needs, on this particular sections however, it says open discussions cos the moderators know that they might be subjects that are not covered under other sections so one could actually bring it here. So showboy as much as i appreciate ur zeal to keep this site a strctly career one, you'll also find out that in the real world there's more to a career that just work, cos without the right frame of mind u'll never achieve ur best in any given task, so as much as possible let's try to be our brothers keepers cos tomorrow it might our turn.

Remain Blessed,
Naija4Life.

madam, i think u ve to do what is right, this is a guy u ve claimed to love when the road was not rough and the business was favouring the two of u, now that things is a bit tough, u still ve to continue. cos the basis of the marriage u want to go into is a for better or for worse u must stay. though time never last but tough people. use my own case for instance, when i graduated and not working my girlfriend would do for herself what i ought to do for her without any complain. when i resumed my job she gave me money to go to work and now she is reaping what she has sown. so be guided accordingly. Never discuss this issue with any guy in private cos he might take an advantage of u and leave u wiyh more agony. wishing to attend ur weeding. all the best................

My Dear, God is dere for u dont just do somethin funny u only know today u dont know what will happen tommorrow try to stick with ur man with dis God is going to surprise u soonest. thanks ur ever

hello dear, i felt that u"v heard it all.the ball is nown in ur court.I just av a question 4 u.Assuming that u maried this guy b/4 this his biz problem.Nown that he has problem, will u ask the house 4 advise wether 2 divorce him or stay back.Its up to u.Dont ever think of leaving the guy at ol.I guese what you should be asking is wether there is need for u guys to shift the wedding and plan better.if thats the case i suggest there is more to marriage.its not something u will rush becose a lot follows after that.so take ur time and plan well.i wish u and ur man all the best in life.

Jeanie, thanks for being sincere about this issue. Actually, God's not the author of confusion. He wouldn't give you a blessing that has sorrow attached to it. If you reallly love this guy, be a pillar to him by encouraging him and giving him a cause to be optimistic. He will get a job soonest. being jobless is only but a shortwhile. Be strong and be happy. God' going to change everything for good. One thing is very important here: FOLLOW YOUR HEART. Our various advices to you may not be the best, though, they are our opinions; but what you feel in your heart as reagrds this relationship mirrors God's plans for you and the future. Be happy, Active and lively for Jesus cares. Shalom!

how far?

I ONLY ADIVCE THAT YOU LOOK UP TO GOD AND HAND EVERYTHING TOTALLY OVER TO HIM COS AM SURE YOU VE NOT DONE THAT COS IF YOU VE, THEN YOUR MIND SHOULD BE AT REST OK. SOMETIMES ITS DIFFICULT TO STOP WORRYING IN A TIME LIKE THIS BUT WHEN DO, YOU ARE ONLY TRYING TO HELP GOD DO HIS WORK AND THAT IS REALLY DANGEROUS MY SWEET DEAR!!!!!!!!!

LEAN AND TRUST IN GOD COS HIS WAYS ARE ABOVE HUMAN UNDERSTANDING SO DONT TRY TO HELP GOD JUST LET HIM DO HIS WORK AND PLS PLS DONT LOOSE FOCUS OK

GOD WILL HELP YOU :)

I thank the house for the contribution so far,am not tying to offend anybody,but let me say this,bcos am always concerned when it come to long term goal as mention by one contributor earlier,people are contrubuting from a natural view without considering what is obtain able in the spirit realm.My people lets be sincere to this lady,nothing happen in the physical without 1st of all taking place in spirit realm,and God of our Lord jesus Christ and the father of Glory is the controller of the spirit realm,i beleive she should first of all go to God in prayer(effective fervent prayer),remember if Jesus our Lord and master prayerd for 3days before chossing the 12 apostles,i beleive she suppose to do the same to aviod regeret,my people that u have been in relationship for years is not a proof of going into mariage,Always ask God question b4 makin difficult decision,Also remember that age is irrelevant to marriage,thats your 30 and nt married is not a reason why you should marry the wrong person,is better to marry the right person @30 than to marry the wrong person @25,see marriage is what is causing cunfusion in the church now,and devil is agile to mess anybody up that will make a wrong chioce,my sister dont mind people telling you to jump in, with consulting God and hearing clearly from him,My God will not allow you to make wrong chioce in Jesus mighty Name,Amen,God bless all in the house

One of the objectives of a united house like this is to give reasonable ideas and counsels not only in employment consideration but also in other endeavours knowing well that this generation of ours is taking over.
Abusive words thus should be curtailed and reasonable answers provided. In my opinion, I would advise that you understand the time of trial and test in your relationship, most times, they are to check how strong your relationship is, Just keep on trusting God and dont do anything funny besides not all that glitters are gold. May God give you understanding.

HOUSE HELP Please I need advise on the marketability of EMC Project Management of Project Management college UK

Dear Jeanie,
Fear not and know for sure that u will laugh last.My belove sister,for every thing in this world there is time.A time to laugh,a time to cry,a time to work and a time to play.It is true that this world is filled with sorrows and troubles;U may be wondering when all these discomfort,disappointment,suffering will stop,know for sure that if Lazarus could raise from the dead then ur guy testimonies are raising one by one.If marah could turn sweet ,then every bitterness in u and ur guy's life are turning to sweetness,if the RED SEA could path,every problem across ur will give way to or promise land.Finally,if u really love him then donot leave him.For love never fails.
urs
Jibowu (08025999996)

Young lady,though i'll still get 2u directly tru ur box but still need 2 talk 2u now.Jus wan 2 b'liv u knw d meaning of dat LUV which u professed in ur text cos if u rilli do,dis tots wouldnt have gotten 2 ur mind in d 1st place.

Dear,from a real time xperience,there's nothing as bad as been so much in a haste.U knw many a time we we fail 2 rilli knw wat our problems are and i tell u dis time dat urs is haste and confussion.PLSSSSSSSSSS,let dat haste most especially elude ur mind cos it will mk u do wat u'll definitely regret all ur live.
Stick with d 1 u said u luv so much and pray endlessly 4 urselves cos i tell u again,He Who Made us cannot put us 2 shame.

Wish u d very best of luck.

Dear Jeanie,

I understand your situation. I have had close friends in similar ones. It all rests within your heart, Sis. When you look at him, do you see the future? If yes, do you like what you see? If yes, hold on then. I also would not advise you to postpone your wedding. If you collectively have enough resources to make it happen, then go ahead. Trust me, there is favour attached to taking the bold step of marraige. You will testify and when you do, remember to use this forum!

Wish you God's best.

HERE, I WANT TO SAY A VERY BIG THANK YOU TO THE HOUSE, ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO TOOK THEIR TIME TO MAIL ME THRU MY BOX, MY PRAYER IS THAT THE GOD THAT ANSWERETH BY FIRE WILL NEVER FORSAKE YOU ALL IN TIMES OF UR NEEDS.FOR THOSE STILL SEARCHING FOR JOBS, LOOK, IN THE BOOK OF JEREMIAH 29:11, GOD SAID ''HE KNOWS THE PLANS HE HAS FOR U, THE PLANS HE HAS FOR U ARE PLANS OF GOOD AND NOT OF EVIL, TO GIVE U A FUTURE AND A HOPE''.I'VE ALWAYS HELD THAT SCRIPTURE SO TIGHT TO MY HEART.IT IS WELL.MAY GOD BLESS THE HOUSE SO MUCH.KEEP IT UP.I LOVE YA ALL.