I will speak from a realistic point of view. The truth is if you refuse to 'do' it as a guy, MOST girls will think you have a problem. Some will even abuse you if you do not 'do' it well. Nobody shd attack me after this post but ive just said what happens even among some so called christians. Heve you not heard of marriages broken because the wife had more 'experience' than the man and engages in adultery? Theres a difference between an ideal situation and a real one.